Month: November, 2013

Being the Reasearcher- Life as the grand research laboratory

The Private Man wrote on the importance of being the researcher when it comes to dating and attraction. I am going to extend that advice to say that this attitude crosses over to every other area of life.

Throughout the process of evolving into the increasingly knowledg-based society, we’ve come to believe in the utility of specialization. While it ‘is’ an effective and economical strategy of progress, it isn’t necessarily wise.

The problem is that we as humans tend to get into ‘tunneled’ thinking habits due to our narrow field of competence, and as a result, externailities which are important are quite often ignored, leading to systemic instability.

If the dominoes of crisis after crisis are to be analysed, we can see that it usually involves the blissful ignorance of ‘seemingly’ irrelevant factors (i.e. externalities) which ended up crashing the system.

This metaphor applies at the micro and macro levels; life is an interconnection of systems and reactions. Ignore one or more part for too long, and predictably that very component’s eventual dysfunction will drag the whole system (through it’s connections to other parts).

So it is with our human interactions that are intricate webs of complex interactions. What academia has tried and failed to do with forecasting the economic results of policies, it is doing the same to gender dynamics. And as Rollo mentions:

‘Observing a process will change it’

So what are we men to do? The answer seems to be the scientist of one’s life; examine and tinker with the many variables and observing with as much objectivity as possible. Obviously there’s the alarm of ‘sociopathy’ being a side-effect, but it isn’t that. Instead, borrow the religious metaphor of ‘the super-being that watches over you’; for this purpose, you are the super-being looking into your own life.

With that, happy researching, and may God save you from his followers.

Random quote:
“Before I lose my temper I always count to zen”`


I am a slave.

Let’s not be in denial.

I have been a slave since the day I was born, and to think that I’ve transcended my animal nature is essentially denying it. 

Where I come from, religion and hypocritical moral code of conduct in society have had me fooled into thinking that myself and others have a higher sense of self. While that level exists, what I’d been blinded from was the reality that this ‘spiritual’ level is standing on the shoulders of the animal level which came before. 

And to deny this animal instinct is a grave ‘natural’ sin. For it will have its way, somehow morphed into an unnatural habit that satisfies it. 

And because of this, I have suffered and am still suffering. 

Despite knowing all there is to know of the ‘red pill’, I still am bound to my programming. My instincts are still tied up in my rational mind. 

Which is okay. I am a slave; it has been so since the beginning. 

Only now I am aware and accept it fully. 

So that I may know who the master is, and overcome my condition

By becoming the master of my own self

Careful not to be a slave-master in the cycle

So now I go on my routine as a slave, knowingly. By being aware of my bondage, I will free myself.